A letter to me
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I’m working on a project to get people to write a letter to their younger self. The premise is that if it was possible to send a letter back through time, what would you say. It could be some advice, a “state of union” on what’s going on in your current life – whatever you might think of.
Here’s mine. Hopefully I will be publishing the Dear Me letters of others here soon.
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Dear Me,
Yes, it’s actually yourself writing this letter, only you are a bit older and a little bit wiser. Hope this isn’t freaking you out or anything. I know it’s hard to believe isn’t it? Someone has found out a way for me to send you a message through the space time continuum. It’s a bit like Back to the Future in a way, I’m the future Marty but I don’t go back and forward for real. Only this letter comes to you from the future.
The purpose of it is to give you the benefit of a few pieces of advice that will help you through the next few years. If the messengers of time have delivered this letter to you properly, you’re just leaving 6th class and are all set to enter secondary school and you’re going on 13 years old.
I know you like ordered lists so I have put this list together for you (us/me/whatever)
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This is the most important thing for you to take note of I think. Stop trying to be the perfect son and perfect student. I know why you are doing it and by the time you get to realise this you won’t be able to shake the perfection habit. It’s OK to do the things all other teenagers do – going to discos, taking a drink, staying out late. You’re sensible enough not to take anything too far, so just relax more. I know you feel like an outsider and you keep to yourself a lot of the time, but you really have to go out and socialise more. If you did this, I think it would be the best thing you could do for me.
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Take a year out after finishing the leaving cert. You’re not ready for college, not by a long shot. You choose a subject that isn’t really what you want. Although you think you’re choosing it because you like it, really you are choosing it because you think it will make people happy – I’m going back to point 1 again… Instead of college, take some time to explore your options and do some travel. Although the country is an economic basket case at the moment, things get much, much better economically. You should try media studies or journalism. You know it’s always appealed to you, so I think you should give it a shot.
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In your first job you will meet a girl through work. Despite her sending many signals that she really likes you, you completely miss them – and you spend all your time wondering if you should ask her out and wondering if she IS sending signals. Do yourself a huge favour and ask her, I really think she could be your soul mate. Please do it because you still wonder “what if” years later.
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Stop spending your money like it was water. You are far too free and easy with it. Save more – it sounds boring, but it pays off.
What else? I don’t want to end up writing a whole manual for the rest of your life so I’m not going to list any more specifics other than to say, keep your chin up, always walk tall and be more proud of yourself and your accomplishments. It’s not a sin. Got that? Good – now, go out there and make me proud!
All the best.
Me.
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9 Comments
April 27th, 2008 at 9:49 am
It is an interesting concept. I enjoyed reading your letter and it would be interesting to read others.
But I don’t feel comfortable with it.
As I’m about to turn 40 I’ve indulged in a bit of reflection and I’ve blogged on the list of “40 Things To Do Before I Die” I have compiled – although there’s only 33 on the list at the moment, I reserve the right to add more as and when they pop into my middle-aged brain.
In amongst the various things – learning to fly; being a mascot at a Welsh rugby international; travelling more once my wife’s health improves; busking; building a house for us; and so on – the two most important items on the list are:
* love and be loved;
* don’t have regrets.
I’ve always believed that life’s too short to have regrets. Why waste time on the “would’ve, could’ve, should’ve” stuff, just get on with it instead.
So if I do nothing on my 40th list, other than love and be loved, it really doesn’t matter.
That’s why I’m not sure I could write this sort of letter.
I wouldn’t want to change a thing.
April 27th, 2008 at 11:51 am
Great idea, though not sure how I’d get on with it. I might start the letter to me but become confused and end up writing to my daughter! She gets enough of that in real life.
Who knows I might try it some day, if I do I’ll likn to you.
April 27th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
@Paul : I hear you and I don’t waste my time on coulda shoulda woulda. It’s a writing project and gets the brain thinking ‘what if’. I don’t necessarily WANT to change anything, but I found it a useful exercise anyway. I’m not a quivering mass of jelly who is sitting here wasting away his life on regrets, despite what you may have read into my letter
@Grannymar, Don’t worry about the confusing me, us, you – it’s best if you don’t even think about that or it will get in the way of what you want to say.
April 27th, 2008 at 7:58 pm
That’s fair enough, that is.
I guess I’m worried that scribbling such stuff down would make me start thinking: “Now, why didn’t I do that/this/the other/her” *
It could be a bit of a pandora’s box.
Or, of course, I’m just talking out of my backside again
(* delete as appropriate)
April 28th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
This is a really great idea.
About three years ago, I found a letter my younger self had written to his older self (confused yet?). I wrote it when I was 16 and read it at 24 and the most significant thing about it was how sad I sounded, but also how hopeful I was that one day my life would be good.
I’ll try write one in response to my younger self and I’ll email it on to you for inclusion.
April 28th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
Sounds good Darren, would love to have your input.
April 28th, 2008 at 11:29 pm
the Major posted just such a letter on his blog a while ago, and prompted me to write the reverse – a letter to the older me.
she hasn’t written back.
August 3rd, 2008 at 10:13 pm
Jeez, I was talking to my 13 year old self even just reading this! I’m gonna give it a whack. Things might get messy.
August 3rd, 2008 at 11:17 pm
Do! I’ll look forward to reading yours.